A fellow blogger of mine and I must be on the same wavelength, Awesome Ashilde (sorry my friend, I do not know how to add the diactric 😦 ), posted about the power of positive thinking and visioning called “What Can the Power of Your Mind Do?“; Take a few moments and go check out her blog and then come back to this one. Pretty awesome stuff eh? Pretty bad pun there forgive me.
For the past few weeks, since the end of May, I had been trying to figure out why I was not getting anywhere with my weight loss journey. I was about to start my Weightloss 365 project, I was a member of Gym-Pact and going to the gym at least 4 times a week but still not losing, and in fact, I had gained a couple more. Looking back, we were still not key on the food side and that was a big part of it, but an even bigger part goes back over 16 months now. Probably to October 2011.
That was the month I stopped seeing me as a triathlete, a runner, a climber, a hiker or fitness rat. Instead my vision changed to that of husband and father at 40. And it scared me, it brought me a lot of stress, fear, doubt and anger at times. Of COURSE this was in addition to all of the love, happiness, gladness, excitement and hope that overwhelmed the others like 4 to 1, but it was still a seed and my vision plan of Mike fell to the side.
When you are planning something big you simply cannot get off plan. I had gotten just over halfway to my goal weight in a little over 1 year. I had lost over 120 pounds in 13 months, that is freaking huge and I had so much more on my plate but decided I could focus on myself less and less and focus on the other roles first.
When we see professional athletes or musicians that are literally at the top of their game, what do we think? sometimes we think arrogance and ego and we would not be wrong. There is so much work to be the best at your game that you have to put yourself first and for right or wrong, sometimes that causes these men and women to make bad choices and cheat at their sport, or in their personal life. But at the core of what they were doing, putting themselves and their game first, was absolutely correct.
Let me ask you a question, if you are out of shape and not taking care of yourself before ALL other things, how are you going to be around to take care of everything else? You won’t be.
That was what I had forgotten, before my wonderful marriage and baby with Amanda it was easy, I was alone and could and would put my needs above all others. I still have to, just tempered down a notch and I have to remember it’s not going to be as easy as it was before. But I still can do it. I don’t blame anyone or expect anyone sympathy for my loss of vision, that is what vision is, it belongs to the owner so nobody can take it away. I alone lost it.
Think about Christian prayer, Wiccan spellcasting, pre-game drills and rituals, rally caps. What do all of these have in common? They are all part of the vision process and allow us to creatively see what we want, focus energy on it and make it happen, and believe me when I say i have cast a few spells and got EXACTLY what i wanted even though maybe I wasn’t 100% on target to what i wanted.
By seeing myself as a triathlete in making, a hiker and climber, I had become these things. I was riding my bike everywhere, I had taken up running and was looking for a swim team to learn to swim. I was hiking at least every few weeks, both urban and nature, and was well on my way to climbing by the end of 2012. Then my vision changed as I mentioned and I saw myself as father, husband and breadwinner. I have to incorporate my earlier vision into my current vision.
To make this long post come to a close, last week I began to see myself as father, husband, breadwinner, triathlete in making, climber, hiker, and cheerleader for my kids and family and continue to use POSITIVE voice instead of NEGATIVE voice, I have made some folks smile, made a new friend or two and weight wise have lost over 5 pounds this week. That is amazing and part of my vision. The most awesome thing about this, is that creative visioning is self-perpetuating.
What do I mean? The more I see myself in the way I want to be seen, the easier it is to meet my short to intermediate goals and when I meet those goals, it is easier to see myself in the way I want to be seen and so on. Amazing! It works.
So for this week I challenge YOU to post one positive thing in social media, to workout at least three times this week and more importantly, come up with one positive light to see yourself in this week and make it happen. I KNOW you can do this, I can see it in you.
Before I forget to all those who are fathers or “fathers” or fathers to be, happiest of all fathers day to you. It is the unsung hero of our generation who makes his kids feel like they can achieve anything.